need the kind of friendly assistance that each member of the fellowship is to offer to each other member; they need to be built up, not crushed; they need to be brought back into the company of the holy, not sent packing because they’ve done what the rest of us would probably end up doing in their place. Second, we’re to deal gently with failure because we must bear in mind our own weaknesses. “Keep watch on yourself,” Paul tells the one who fancies himself as a bit of a hanging judge in the church